How To Learn To Set Priorities & Have The Life...

How To Learn To Set Priorities & Have The Life You Want

To change your life you need to change your priorities - Mark Twain

If someone asks you what your priorities are in life, you will probably give typical answers. Family. Health. Worked. Spirituality. Perhaps friends, travel, or hobbies also appear on your list.

The truth is, we all like to say that we prioritize certain things, things that deep down we think are important, but how many of us structure our daily lives to reflect those priorities?

Making a conscious decision about the life we ​​want to live often means taking a hard look at how we spend our time, money, and energy.

For this, a deep self-reflection on our personal truths and behaviors is necessary. And also some big changes to bring our daily lives in line with the things we say we believe in.

True happiness requires brutal honesty, especially with ourselves, and examining the way we have been living and contrasting it with the way we would like to live.

Surely, many times you feel bombarded with daily tasks. Perhaps at night, before going to sleep, you think about all the things you will do the next day with a vivid imagination about how they should be done. But in reality, sometimes unexpected problems arise, and the plans you have thought of the night before go awry and you lose your way.

If you want to learn to establish your priorities and have a life more aligned to your values, and above all be happier, this article is for you.



Prioritize your life by asking yourself two simple questions

To establish priorities in your life you can start by asking yourself what you really want and what are the obstacles in your way to achieving it.

These two questions really get to the heart of the matter, because they ask you to be direct and honest. They push you to open the dialogue with yourself about your deepest desires and the habits that may be blocking your way. These simple questions are all you need to start determining what is a priority in your life. The rest is completely up to you.

We all know, on a deep level, what things are really important to us at the end of the day, and what things light us up inside.

We are also very good at drifting into worst-case scenarios and allowing our fears to keep us stuck, making each year go by on autopilot, until one day, an unexpected situation brings us back on track and forces us to rethink our priorities.

But what if you could consciously clear them up today? What if you could decide now what kind of life you want to live and make the leap to an existence more aligned with what you really want in your life?

What is the difference between values, goals, and priorities?

If right now you are thinking that you would like to spend more quality time with your children or with your partner, this may be the wake-up call you to need to optimize the time you spend checking your emails, limit the use of your mobile or reduce the hours you spend at work.

Being clear in defining what is important to you, and what you value most, is key to setting meaningful priorities.

The values ​​you have drive you to act in a certain way because they are part of your beliefs, determine your behavior, and express your interests and feelings.

To start, connect what is most important to you with the big goals you have set out to achieve. The priorities you set have to align with how you want to live and share experiences with those around you, that is, with your values, so that you can find a sense of purpose and achievement. This will mean determining what actions are necessary to live aligned with your values.

Priorities versus time: a constant battle

Do you feel like there is never enough time? Feeling overwhelmed by all your commitments and wondering how you'll fit them into your schedule?

Yes, sometimes we don't even know where to start. I know from personal experience that it can be very stressful when trying to manage your time between a demanding job, your studies, and your personal life. But it's okay. This is not a permanent situation…if we learn to take control.

The first step is to recognize that we are in charge of our time and daily activities.

So, for example, when we say that we don't have time to continue learning, what we are really saying is: "I choose not to continue learning right now because other things are more important to me." It's always about choices.



5 keys to learning to manage your time

We all have time to do what is most important to us. It's just a matter of defining what those priorities are.

Learn to set priorities: organize your day and plan your hours so you don't lose sight of your focus

To help you with this, I leave you five keys to manage both your time and the priority things in your life:

1. Determine what is the most important thing in your life.

Identifying those activities that you WANT to do instead of those that you feel you HAVE to do, will guide you when making decisions.

For example, if the most important thing for you is to spend more time with your family, your efforts will not be aimed at finding a job where you spend more than ten hours working. Only you can know what is important, there are no good or bad answers here.

2. Keep a “motivation file”.

Remember that motivation is the main impulse that leads us to act when we set certain objectives, in order to achieve a goal that we have set for ourselves.

You can create a file where you group all those reasons why you are doing certain things in the first place. You can refer to it when you feel frustrated or overwhelmed.

If it is difficult for you to maintain or increase your willpower, here is an article that I wrote that can help you.

3. Control what you allow into your life.

Building habits is based on the transformation of your environment. If your environment is free of distractions and you use the right techniques, you will be much more productive. If your environment is full of distractions and interruptions, you will not achieve anything.

By this, I mean get rid of distractions; For example, just because someone wants something from you, like your time or attention, doesn't mean you have to stop doing your homework and give an immediate response. Many people usually do this with mobile notifications, does it happen to you too?



4. Schedule your day and create a routine.

Try to schedule your day-to-day activities by schedules and not by lists of things to do. It is not enough to just make a list, making it is only the first step. The most important part is to assign them a time in your calendar, otherwise, it becomes a wish list.

Regarding the routine, I don't think there is an ideal routine for everyone, just as there is no perfect time to get up. I think you should seek to develop those habits that help you feel better. And besides, you have to design your own routine based on their activities, obligations, and preferences.

The routine of a mother with two children that she must leave at school and go to work is not the same as that of a woman who lives alone, works from her home, and trains at night.

5. Have a "strategy meeting" with yourself every week.

Review the tasks you were working on the previous week.

Write down what went well and what is still stressing you out:

• Can you do more of what works for you?
• What steps can you take to relieve the stress from continuing next week?

Set some goals for the next week:

• What are the priorities?
• What are you going to do and when?

Start each new week knowing exactly what you need to do.

Time management is hard and it's not something you master overnight, but you'll find that you get much better at prioritizing your day-to-day.

How to manage your priorities to be more productive

Surely you are wondering, how can a person prioritize and be more productive at the same time? Well, precisely shaping your life depends on how much you learn to manage it.

Self-management means being in charge or in control of things that need to be done over time. This means that a person has the will and control to achieve the desired result if self-management is applied.

According to Peter Drucker, in his book Self Management, success depends on ourselves, on the ability we have to know how to develop ourselves, and for this, it is necessary to analyze ourselves, in order to define the strategy that we will use to achieve that success.

Time is of the essence to make self-management more attainable. In addition, if a person does not have certain qualities, and does not intend to develop them, he will hardly learn to manage his life.

What skills should you develop to learn to self-manage your life successfully?

Some of the qualities to be successful in self-management are:

1. To be organized: You can't afford to be disorganized knowing tasks are piling up and deadlines are chasing you. You have to learn to work smart.
2. Be analytical: Being analytical is helpful because it will allow you to redirect direction without sacrificing the step-by-step process.
3. Know how to stay calm: Many times people do not get stressed about a situation, but rather about the way their reaction to a situation takes.
4. Knowing how to act, and directing those actions to established objectives. It is difficult to continue in life without clarity about what to achieve and without knowing the purpose of achieving them. Knowing the reasons why you want to do what you do will increase your motivation.



The importance of saying no: define what is worth it

I ask you a simple question.

Why do you feel guilty about saying “no” when you do something that helps you strengthen your values ​​and improve your life?

It has happened to all of us. A new email appears in your inbox (or a new WhatsApp message on your mobile) and it's from a coworker, neighbor, friend, or even a stranger asking for your time and help. Your schedule is on fire, but maybe you could just push your schedule, miss a training class, or get home a little later.

You could say "yes" and make it work, but what you really mean is "no". So how do you say no without damaging that relationship? You don't want to be selfish or disappoint anyone. But let's agree that this time for you or your family is what you've been waiting for all week.

I myself have been in that situation many times, and I have realized what it means: unnecessary stress. But when you learn to be mindful and selective about what you say yes to, you can say yes to the things you really want to do.

Everything is an opportunity cost, requiring us to give up one thing to do another. And the most amazing part about practicing saying no is that most people…get it. When you take care of yourself, you can take better care of others and they respect that.

But let's discuss the art of saying "no." Why are you afraid to say no? Disappointment? Fault? To show that you are supportive? I understand. We often say yes to show that we are trustworthy and capable.

I'm not saying we shouldn't continue to do things for others and say "yes." Because saying yes can open up opportunities, new friendships, and a lot of great things, but what happens when it conflicts with our priorities?

Whatever your priorities are, trust them and people will respect them. If they don't, they're not the kind of people you'd like to be around, don't you think?

The “everything is important” paradox: habits that will help you prioritize aspects of your life

Most big changes will require you to put in consistent effort over a long period of time. Calculate which daily habits will take you to your goals and prioritize them on your calendar.

Small habits, followed consistently over time, are the stepping stones to achieving big goals. Every time you complete a daily habit, the brain releases dopamine, and dopamine makes us feel good. When your brain gets a hit from this neurotransmitter it's rewarding, so you'll want the associated behavior to repeat itself. And over time, those repeated habits lead to big transformations.

7 habits that will lead to big changes in your life

• Improve your physical health by exercising constantly, eating healthy, and prioritizing your rest.
• Build meaningful long-term relationships with people who add value to your life.
• Practice daily gratitude for what is already present in your life, allowing yourself to appreciate the little things.
• Find a balance between your work and personal routines.
• Learn from your inevitable failures so that you can continue to grow as a person and as a professional.
• If you can, travel and spend time in nature.
• Practice non-attachment to ideas, plans, and expectations: learn that flexibility creates adaptability, which creates happiness and maintains success.




When you learn to prioritize in your life, you can intentionally focus on what really matters and achieve your most important goals.

Priorities are complicated. There are things you really want to prioritize at the beginning of each year, like spending more time with family, pursuing a project you're passionate about, or starting a business. And there are things you should prioritize, like taking care of your children, and family members, or going to work.

Then there are all the distractions that get in the way of achieving what you really want. A high-paying job seems too good to pass up, even if it means spending less time at home. Day-to-day activities like answering emails, making arrangements, or hanging out on social media take up more time than you'd like.

Also, when you learn to manage the things that are important to you, you can align your actions with your values. So you can commit to your long-term goals and build the life you want.

Try some of these approaches to start putting your priorities first, even when distractions arise in your life, and let me know if learning to say no works for you.

Tell me, do you have a hard time saying no and establishing what is really important in your life? I read you in the comments 🙂

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