Writer and father of a number of children, Mike Berry, explains in his blog why his wife is more important to him than his children and why this idea should be adopted by every family. The article on his blog became very popular and opinions were varied: some people criticized the pronunciation while others are just inspired by it because it changed their way of thinking.
Mike and his wife Kristin raise 8 adoptive children. They have been happily married for 17 years and actively engage in social work to help other families cope with their problems and build a harmonious relationship.
Take a look at Mike's article..
It's usually 8:30 when I give my two teenage daughters the first warning that it's time. And at nine o'clock I tell them, “You have to go to your room.I do this almost every night. And they argue every time, “Why do we have to go to bed at nine o'clock? We're not kids anymore!“You don't have to go to bed now,” I say, “I simply ask to leave the living room. Mom and I haven't seen each other all day because we were focused on our work. We need that time together..'
The girls roll with their eyes.
Honestly, we've been following this rule for as long as I can remember. We have been parents for 15 years and the children have never claimed all our time. My wife and I spend a lot of time with our children, but never 24 hours a day. We love our children, of course they play a very big role in our lives. They can always count on us, get our help and support.
But besides the children there is also 'us'. Our relationship. Kristin and I have to make sure our marriage is strong and healthy. There are several reasons why that is important and here are 4 of them.
1. A healthy marriage is the cornerstone of your home
2. For them, it was us
3. After them it will be us
4. We must set an example for the future
As I said before, children look at us and learn things from us. They do what we do and they look at every step we take. I often say, “We raise adults, not children.Again, I don't know about you, but I want my kids to grow up with a normal attitude towards dating, love and family. And I want our marriage to be an example to them. So my wife comes for my children. They're very close, but they're still behind my wife.
At the end of the day, we tend to be tired and tense. And yes, your children need you, they are very important. Not your hobby, not your friends, not your work. And you really have to care about them. But first of all, take care of your relationship. When children see that their parents love each other, they are sure that their parents love them. But the most important thing is that they are confident and confident in the world around them.
We have really crazy calendars. We are always short of free time. We spend the full day with our children. And that's why we ask them to go to their room at nine o'clock in the evening. That's why my wife and I date each other twice a month. Because it's important.
That's why my wife comes for my kids.