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More content E-book coming

In the previous blog, I told you that I wrote an E-book containing '12 Tips to Talk in Case of Loss and Grief with the Child'. I have received many nice reactions to this. Especially many reactions that surprised me delighted. Because certain assumptions were made. Assumptions that I wrote a complete book with tips worked out. But nothing is less true, unfortunately.
Your valuable reactions have made me think about how I could give the E-Book even more depth, which will eventually give it more content. Who eventually knows a book thanks to you?. 
I'm going to try to elaborate each tip separately in the coming time. I will share this with you here and I am obviously very curious to see what you think of what has been written. 
If there is any more information missing, let us know. I will then do my utmost to complement the piece further. Thank you in advance for at least inspiration to develop my E-Book.  

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Tip 1: Communicate at the child level

Marietje is 7 years old when her grandfather dies. She's having a pretty hard time with this. Her parents see Marietje's behavior that she struggles with feelings and emotions. Marietje's parents try to communicate about the death of grandpa, but they fail to have the right conversation. They don't seem to be able to figure out what feelings and emotions are now the result of her grandfather's death. Despite her parents telling me that feelings and emotions can be there and everything, this is not what helps. Marietje is getting angry and more and more distracting from the conversation her parents try to have with her. It seems like Marietje's parents don't understand what Marietje is actually trying to say.
Having a conversation with kids is an art. The most important thing is to take them seriously, approach them properly in communication and help find the words if necessary, because they cannot find them themselves.
Looking at the case of Marietje, it seems that Marietje's parents are particularly struggling with the latter. Despite questioning, they don't seem to be able to figure out what feelings and emotions are now the result of her grandfather's death. For Marietje, this gives a sense of not being seen, not heard, and not acknowledged. Incomprehension, above all, which makes it increasingly angry and thus becomes more and more secluded.
Having conversations with children, a whole art, indeed. That's why conversations between children and adults are often so laborious. And this can be quite different.
Adults should be a little less likely to assume that children are imfull conversation partners. The opposite is completely different. Children are still incredibly pure and therefore, in fact, more intelligent than an adult is often.
Tips for Marietje's parents who could help to better understand the feelings and emotions could be that instead of asking them to tell Marietje themselves. When there is something unclear in the story for the parents, they could then ask if Marietje can give an explanation. By letting Marietje explain what is going on and not going to interpret, the direction of the conversation is directed at Marietje, she is seen as a full-fledged interlocutor and will possibly be able to clarify what she means now. 
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