12 Tips - Tip 3
Tip 3: Involve the child in the processes of loss and grief and talk about them above all
Josje is 4 years old when her father suddenly dies. Josje's father had been ill for a while, but not seriously ill. Despite illness, attention has always been paid to father's disease process. Josje always went to the hospital when dad had to go to the hospital. Only in operations was she not allowed to be present. At home, many books were read about what they are sick and the hospital visits all meant.
Because there was no serious illness, it was never thought that father's illness could also mean his death. As a result, no attention has been paid to talking about death. Never have there been conversations with Josje about illness and death or read books about illness and death. Always the person got better again, just not now.
Josje was always put to bed by her dad, no matter how sick dad was. This is something she is missing out now that her daddy is no longer there. Extreme weeping showers are the result. Mom doesn't know, or hardly, to comfort her.
This age can sometimes be difficult to find the words for feelings and emotions that are bothered by themselves in these situations. As a parent or educator, you are the most important person for the child. If you see certain feelings and emotions, such as sadness, appoint this to the child. Name: 'I see you're sad', 'I see you're mad'. It is important to recognize and, above all, recognize the feelings and emotions. If the child has the idea that both are happening, then the child will feel safe more quickly and go out on exploration. Exploring the environment without the loved one around him or her.
Next, it is important to think about how to make your child say goodbye. During the pathological process, the child is involved in everything, how after? After that, too, it is advisable to involve children as much as possible everywhere. For example, let them make a nice drawing or write a letter for the farewell service. If possible, have children decorate the chest during the farewell service, or let the children wear a flower and place it by the coffin or grave.
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