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Na een bizar 2020 had ik het voornemen om 2021 met de nodige positivity tegemoet te treden. However, fate, or whatever you want to call it, had different intentions. Apart from the fact that within the first week several household appliances gave the mind (luckily that is just stuff that can be replaced), I also got several bad news messages to process. For example, both my son and me were diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD) and my employer informed me that my contract would not be renewed. Really swallow so. But how now?

Let settle

First of all, I had to let all the annoying news settle and let the consequences get through to me. So I will first have to find a good practitioner to help us get rid of the PTSD (and of course to see how I am going to pay and/or get reimbursed). Furthermore, I will have to look for other ways to turn my writing skills into bread on the shelf. Pff, not an easy task and it took me quite a few days to figure everything out for myself.

Turning negative spiral into problem-solving thinking
I soon noticed that because of the accumulation of problems, I threatened to end up in a negative spiral. But I also realized that if I allowed this, I would have to deal with even more misery. Conclusion: I had to turn the negativity into something positive. But how?

To begin with, I went extra sports. When I'm running, I can clear my head while working on my condition and gain some mental energy. I can then use this energy to approach the problems in a more positive way. Furthermore, it quickly became clear that I should not think in problems, but in solutions. After all, the defective devices could be replaced, there are good treatments for people suffering from PTSD, and also financially, doors that have remained closed until now can be opened.

No hasty decisions

Initially, I panicked quite a bit when I already got the aforementioned problems on my plate. Because of a “less pleasant" past I was accustomed to fighting for everything I wanted to achieve, so I would be able to do that again.. Besides, I now have a man standing by my side so I don't have to solve everything myself. Although it's often small things he can do for me, like looking for a new device and ordering or offering a shoulder to cry on, it still gives me relief.

However, a number of problems, especially related to the PTSD and work, will have to be addressed by myself. I have given myself some time in this. It is my experience that making hasty decisions often does not provide adequate solutions. Above all I want to deal with (part) of a problem every time: first orient what is possible in the field of treatments of PTSD, then find a good practitioner and go sideways looking for a nice writing or correction loop (suggestions are of course always welcome ).

New ideas

During brainstorming there were even some new ideas that I would definitely like to get started. For example, for some time now I have a nice storyline in my head where I want to turn that I want to into a book. I also want to start drawing and painting again (something that I have done a lot of teenagers, but has shifted to the background later) and I want to carry out the necessary maintenance work both indoors and outdoors and make changes where necessary.

Deer's gonna get me!

Although I would not have dared to think that a few weeks ago, I am now strongly convinced that everything will end up on its feet again.. I don't want to let these setbacks get me down because I know what I've been able to achieve and what I've had to do for it.. To be honest, I have had to say to myself several times: “I can do it, I will do it again", before I really dared to believe in my own strength. In short: even without work and with a very full mental backpack I keep going for it. The problems are known and the solutions have been put together so now by...!