Are kids being raised like softies these days?

The other day I saw this on TV. I found it an interesting broadcast. Maybe everyone should watch this broadcast and ask themselves what they recognize in it. Both the children born within “generation Z” 1997 - 2012 and the parents. Here they are talking about the parents of generation Y, but I myself seem to belong to generation Xenial - a type of intermediate generation that “characterizes” the transition from X to Y. In any case, I asked my children to watch the broadcast and in due course. to discuss this with me. I'm curious. A kind of parenting check, so to speak 😉.

While watching, I wondered if I also raised my children as softies. Because although the term is not sympathetic, as it is presented in this broadcast, it is the correct term. I do recognize some of the topics that we have discussed over the years. Although I often opposed it, my children often thought I was “out of my mind” precisely because I thought they needed to learn, both in school and from life. I literally went to school more than 4 times to tell teachers if my children wanted to try something and I was told that if they failed, it wasn't good for my child's development and self-esteem, that I found that if something doesn't work out, that's not the same as failure, it's learning and I wanted my kids to just learn things and also that sometimes things go differently than they think before.

On the other hand, I also like to persevere. Getting stuck in something - sometimes because you have to and sometimes because you want to - even when it's not always fun and I'm not sure I've always done the right thing about it. Whether I've conveyed what I mean by that. Getting criticism or getting feedback is a thing for some sprouts, although I'm not sure if it's just mine or others. Some people are really better at dealing with it than the other, but it may be a while to see what that's like when they're older. At their age, I didn't always like it when I got comments from my parents either.

I'm having a bit of a conversation I had with one recently saying that “they don't want to disappoint me” and that shocked me because they can't disappoint me because they make their own choices that said: “We know we won't let you down, but we also know that you were always there for us, so we want to do it well”. I understood what was being said, but it still shocked me. I also know that I did not impose that and that this has to do with our life and how things worked out and that's probably where this comes from, but I found it tough. It felt a bit like I “imposed” that on them and yes, somewhere that's more like “make sure you always make your own choices, be true to yourself, make sure you live your life from the best position for you” and the basis for that is, of course, my starting point, since I am the educator. But I never wanted to convey that they should be me or not me (depending on the situation). I think it's very difficult to have this as a frame of reference, although many children will probably have it (not me, but I mean their parent (s), of course) but my child speaks it out. Of course, every child in every generation has this, but the only question is how they deal with it, so that's what this broadcast is interesting for/about.