“Birdnesting” is a form of co-parenting that has been gaining popularity in recent years, especially among divorced parents who put the stability and well-being of their children first. The principle is simple but effective: instead of the children commuting between two houses, they keep one home base (the “nest”), while the parents alternately stay in the same house when it is their turn to look after the children. This offers multiple benefits for children facing the reality of divorce and can significantly ease the transition for them.

1. Stability and continuity

The biggest advantage of birdnesting is that it gives children a sense of stability. Breakups are often one of the most profound changes in a child's life. Birdnesting keeps them in their familiar environment, with their own room, toys, neighborhood and school routine. They don't have to pack their things or change their surroundings every time, which offers peace and predictability. This stability can help them feel safe and secure, even during a turbulent time.

2. Reducing stress and anxiety

Divorce can be a source of stress and uncertainty for children. Many children are concerned about what their lives will look like in the future, and birdnesting can help reduce these fears. Through birdnesting, parents can show their children that, although the relationship between the parents has changed, their love and care for the children remains unabated. The fact that the children do not have to constantly go back and forth between two different houses also reduces the risk of conflicts of loyalty, where a child may feel like they have to choose between their parents.

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