Everywhere we turn we are bombarded with sex: media, magazines, movies, billboards. It’s everywhere and constant. Marketing and advertising uses sex to sell everything from hamburgers, to underwear, to cars.
As you know Sex itself is an incredibly powerful energy that when not understood can be the source of much confusion and suffering.
Regular sex is simply about a release, or relieving yourself of stress. It’s the type that leaves you deeply unfulfilled.
Soul sex is the understanding that it is really the exchange of energy, your energies and your partner’s. It’s alchemy that when engaged together in love can open and heal you, your mind, your body, your heart and Soul. Real sex is an energetic exchange and sharing not just a means to release or satisfy the body. Your body might be satisfied but, if sex just remains on a purely physical level, it will be a fleeting high. Real fulfilment cannot be found through the body alone. Pain and pleasure come and go.
The pleasure from sex that arises simply through the body is incredibly transitory. Soul sex happens when you recognize who you are and who the other is. First and foremost, you are Souls, not just a physical body. Then your lovemaking becomes the opportunity for your Souls through the vehicle of your body to dance, exchange, communicate, play and express loving as a gift to each other. When you engage your beloved sexually with the fullness of love and you no longer see your partner as a separate self or simply as another body of flesh, a profound shift occurs within you and your lovemaking will deepen. Then the real exchange happens on the Soul level. At the Soul level there is a 'sacred' communion, the illusions of separation between you and the other drop away and you dissolve as ONE.
As you realize that you are not the body, your partner is not the body, but you are Souls, you can allow each other’s body to serve as a temple becoming the portal into a deeper dimension of the Infinite. What you then exchange with your partner through your bodies is Love energy itself. Then it becomes in the truest sense Lovemaking. You are both sharing the love that you are in that moment.
So Soul sex is the surrender of yourself, not just to your partner but also to the 'Divine' that is living alive within him/her Itself.
Then, something magical happens. Sex moves from needing something, trying to get something, or a game of power and control. It is a letting go of control. It becomes about deep surrender to that which is living and breathing us all.
True lovemaking happens the more you realize and embody that what you are is LOVE itself.
When you make love, you let go. Then there is no you or other. There is only Now. There is only Freedom.
Perhaps this is why we are so obsessed with sex a culture. Yet what we are really seeking is not simply a momentary release – but something far deeper. We are searching for that which is formless and beyond pain or pleasure.
You are ultimately seeking your true Self.
Sex then becomes no more a path to enlightenment, but the very manifestation of Enlightenment itself.
Your lovemaking becomes the expression of the true Light of who you are, manifesting itself as an offering through your body.
Give up all techniques, strategies and resistances to loving. Let go. Release. Relax. Trust. Dive in. Embrace.
When you surrender, there is no more you or another.
There is no more lover, loved or loving.
There is only Love.
Source ~ Kute Blackson's blog