What is it and what does it do to you? A lot. And if you're not careful, you'll get all bogged down. And you're gonna be like them, for example. And when they talk. At least, if you don't have your own identity. I've had friendships for 14 years. Every day it is a challenge with the question: do I have the right people around me? Who can I trust and who can't? Can I trust the person who has a lot about someone else? What does that person tell you about me? Who can be trusted and who can't? And of course, my attachment is disturbed. For 21 years I had sneaky friendships. Living outside my hermits and the strict regime of home. Never have I learned to trust people properly. I never really learned how to deal with each other. Is it normal to talk about others? Or not? In what way is it? Is it normal to throw yourself away in a friendship, or not? No, you can also receive something I've learned. But to what extent can you get too selfish in this? I often sail on my intuition. Which feels pure, and what doesn't. Still, I find it difficult. And then I think: I used to have a minimal social life and I knew very well how to be on my own and how to rely on myself. Then those friendships I have now mean a lot, but they don't. Because I'm good at being alone, too. What also makes it difficult is that I've developed a fragile identity over the years, for 14 years. This one is gradually getting stronger. But because of the tendency to let me get bogged down in the other, I sometimes (partially) lose myself in this. Then, poof, gone identity. Away self-confidence. And then I wake up... Back at the beginning. Back to building on myself. Where did it go wrong? And what can I improve... on to growth, to a better me... #vrienden #levenweeroppakken #hoemaakjejezelfgek #vertrouwen

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