Ogochukwu Ugwu

· 29 Nov 2021

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How to stop comparing yourself to others

How do you perceive yourself? Ugly, beautiful, weak, foolish, wise? How do you see your friends, more beautiful, elegant, funny, tall and loving?

Do you often think others have what you always wanted to have?
Or that they are just the way you want be?

Then, you may be comparing yourself with other people. Comparing yourself with other people robs you of the strength to become a better person.

Anyone who keeps comparing himself to other turns out to become toxic and always in a pity party organized and attended by himself alone.

Things that might make you compare yourself to others

You weren't given enough love as a child
You seemed to lack essential things of life. That's most of your needs are not often met
You are introvert

Effects of comparing yourself to others

Your are always withdrawn from people (Note: there are other things that can make one to be withdrawn aside comparison)

You don't seem to express your true feeling

Your potentials are not fully harness

It can make you to be wicked

It leads to envy

A lot of things can contribute to this, but it's okay you have come to realize you're actually comparing yourself to others.

Because the first step to getting cured is the ability to realize you have a sickness.

How to stop comparing yourself to others

You are unique and special

You continually want to be like others because you haven't recognized or noticed how beautifully made you are.

Tell yourself everyday that you are specially made by God and no one is like you. Your unique nature adds to your beauty.

Accept who you are, the way you look, walk, smile and talk. Start loving those things you hate about yourself.

Build yourself esteem

Do you know you destroy yourself 100 times and more by comparing yourself to others.  

Because you don't seem to have a voice of your own. Before going out to any event or doing things you would always conclude in your mind that it will be a flop because you feel you ain't good enough.

Tell yourself you are good enough, you're the best one for the event,that there's no one like you.

This will help to build your self esteem. If your self esteem is low, it shows in your face and actions.

Imitate and get focused

Why do you want to be like this particular person? What do they do that made them exceptional? Write it down.

Then write down those areas you are exceptional than them - for you're unique and people can't always beat your record.

Now ask yourself, if it is necessary to do some of the things you listed they do that are not in your own list. If yes, make plans on how to improve.

You know what? It is good to learn from others but never dwell in comparison. Any invention you see today is in one way or the other an imitation of earlier invention.

So it is acceptable to learn from the good sides of people and improve, you can learn any of these from someone: how to dress, how to invest, how to save money and how to socialize.

Go extra mile

In as much as you learnt somethings from these people, they could be things you always wanted to do that they don't even do. You see, you are uniquely made.

You might be interested in learning lawn tennis, volleyball, musical instruments, volunteering and so much more.

Don't devout your limited time comparing yourself to others go chase your dreams.

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