Internal emptiness
Deciphering yourself for another person's happiness is very unhealthy. Unfortunately, it's still too common. People who wring into all kinds of curves to please and constantly adapt to the other person is a clear signal of codependency; also called an attachment trauma, a collection of patterns in which you try to keep control of relationships and feelings.
People who are codependent often make themselves smaller than the other and do everything they can to make a relationship work. Research shows that it has to do with the upbringing or traumas from previous relationships. If you have not known an emotional connection with your parents as a child, because they were too much of a knot with themselves, you can feel a loneliness all your life that can't put you well under. As an adult, you are then unconsciously attracted to someone who connects you with that childhood feeling.
You then choose not to enter into deep relationships purely for fear that they will end wrong anyway. A kind of fear of commitment or. fear of abandonment. These people have learned to do very hard to make a relationship work, even if it's an unhappy relationship and internally you feel empty and unhappy.
For such a person, it can feel very safe to fall on an unreachable person. You then know in advance that he or she won't choose you anytime soon, even though deep down you want nothing more than to feel connection in that relationship.
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