For years the oldest (9) comes with questions about her grandfather and grandmother. Every time I try to answer her in the best possible way, in children's language. But Let is not allowed to be cast off, she must and will get the bottom stone above.

“Mom? Are my grandfather and grandmother mad at me?”
“No, girl, how do you get there now?”
“Well, they don't want to see me. When we were still living in the Netherlands, Grandma didn't say goodbye when she saw me and she knows who I am.”
“Sweetheart, I find that heartbreaking... you should never have experienced that. Sorry you experienced that...”
“We went there, right? Then I always got half a syrup waffle. Why a half? I could also do a whole on.”
“Yes, we went there. Precisely because mom and dad wanted to make sure you knew each other.”
“But grandpa and grandma didn't want to see us anymore...”
“Unfortunately, sweetheart... But that has nothing to do with you! You have not done anything wrong!”
“Why were they so mad at you and Dad?”
“Pooh, that's hard to tell. The truth is, I don't even really know? Look, poppie, mom and dad think something different than many others and some people sometimes find that a bit weird and maybe even a little scary...”
“So that's why we didn't have to visit grandpa and grandma anymore?”
“I think so. They never wanted to say why.”
“I'm going to write a letter. I want to know what I did wrong! I want to know why they don't want to know me.”
“Oh, girl... I think that's very brave of you. It's your right to write a letter, ask what you want to know. But you have to keep in mind that they do not respond..., or that they respond with a not so nice answer...”
“You say I didn't do anything wrong, so what can they say for annoying?”
“I don't know..., I really don't know... But I don't want you to get hurt if they don't respond.”
“Now I keep thinking about it, so I'm just going to do it; I'm going to write a letter!”
“Is good, sweetheart, is good. If I have to help you, just say so.”
“I'm going to think of what I'm going to write first.”
“Take your time... You're brave, doll. Your grandfather and grandmother have no idea what they're missing..., no idea...”
She looks at me with a sweet smile on her face. I give her a wink and throw a blow kissing over the table, which she waves away and makes her laugh a little.
Let her write and send a nice letter, as long as she gets some peace in her head. My own feeling... I have to put that aside. This tough girl has a right to an answer, whatever that answer is. #liefde #onvoorwaardelijk #onvoorwaardelijkouderschap #opa #oma #grootouders #afgedankt #genegeerd #waarheid #zoekktocht #waarheid #dochter #dapper #verdriet #brief