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Lost teat

It's Wednesday morning when Mom brings Job to the shelter with tears in her eyes. Job is only 9 months old. He is a lovely male, plays quite independently, eats and drinks well and sleeps like a rose provided he has his teat. Today, however, Mom forgot Job's teat. She was told yesterday that her father died and is not quite there with her mind..
Despite the bad news Mom received yesterday, she still manages to give a transfer. With the transfer, Mom indicates that Job ate and drank a little bad and that sleep went a bit restless. After this transfer, Mom goes there fleeting from there, because she still has so much to arrange with her mother for her father's funeral. You have the idea that Mom is not only overcome by grief, but also overcome by stress.
You decide to give Job the best possible care there is today. Job needs rest and regularity. However, he can not totally find his turn today at the shelter. Job plays little, sits more quietly and aimlessly staring at himself, does not eat and drink, and does not want to sleep at all. At first, you think this has something to do because Mom forgot the teat from Job. But did you know that this can also be a form of mourning as a result of the loss experience?
What about that then exactly?


Children up to two years

Children up to two years of age have congenital behaviors (adhesion behavior) to make contact. At this stage, it “laughs” and “talks” to everyone who approaches him positively.
By crying, smiling and babbling, your baby 'shouts' you as it were and tries to keep you close, creating stitching. Everything is experienced with the body in this phase. The cognitive ability of children is not yet sufficiently developed at this stage to be able to understand or ask things in life. A loss will therefore not consciously experience.
However, children at this age can be told that there has been a death. This is because children experience everything with their bodies at this stage. Kids pick up the tension they can feel about you and store it in their bodies. Children can start eating, drinking and sleeping worse because of this tension, but this does not necessarily have to do with the loss experience.


What to do with a baby or toddler at a funeral?

I'll be honest, there's no unambiguous answer to this. It is especially important to listen to your feelings as a parent, educator or professional and to make your choice on the basis of that. However, I have some tips that might help you make this choice easier.
  • If you choose not to bring a baby or toddler to a funeral, take care of pictures or film material. At a later age, you can then talk with the child about the loved one by the photos. If you choose to bring a baby or toddler to a funeral, make sure there's someone who's behind. I mean by this that there is someone on hand who is able to watch the baby or dreumes and want to pay attention during the shift, so that there can also be room for your own feelings and emotions.
  • Make sure you take pictures or videos that the baby or toddler has been present. Especially if it is a funeral of a person close, for example, grandmother, grandpa, mom or dad. At a later age, children can still come up with questions why a certain person is no longer there. Together you can watch the pictures or the video that were taken at the time.

What tips do you have to add here?

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