My Encounter with the Teacher Who Bullied Me and Made My Life a Living Hell | Babita de Boer

My Encounter with the Teacher Who Bullied Me and Made My Life a Living Hell

33 · 5 min read · 13 Mar 2023 · 43 · 20 · 19

Bullying can have a profound impact on a person's life, leaving emotional scars that can last well into adulthood. And while we may hope to leave our bullies behind in our school years, life has a way of throwing unexpected encounters our way. One such encounter is running into the teacher who bullied you. This is exactly what happened to me, and here's what happened next.

The bullying

Ah, Mrs. M, my second grade teacher. She bullied me from top to toe.She did praise me for my grades however, but always made fun of my appearance and uncombed hair. Little did she know that I was the one doing my hair as a 7 year-old, because my mother didn't do that for me.

I remember very clearly the worst thing she did to me: she took out a chair, placed it in front of the classroom, made me stand on it, told me to look in the mirror, then told me to face my classmates and asked the entire class: "What is wrong with this girl?". The entire class chanted in chorus: "Her hair! Her hair! She looks like a scarecrow with her hair like that".

The pity

There was a teacher-parent conference one day and my mother didn't appear. I had to convince my grandfather to go instead. I know how busy he is, providing for the entire family. He brought me and my cousin to school, he did the groceries, he cleaned the house, mown the lawn and also worked to get money.

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Henkjan de Krijger

Henkjan de Krijger

You should send her this post ....

Ingrid

@Henkjan de Krijger Yes, she should read this!

Toto Animo

It's incomprehensible for a teacher to do such a thing. How could she not know that this would have a serious emotional impact on you? And to include all the children in the class. Of course, they then think that such a behavior is... Show moreIt's incomprehensible for a teacher to do such a thing. How could she not know that this would have a serious emotional impact on you? And to include all the children in the class. Of course, they then think that such a behavior is normal.
All right, she now realizes that this was a mistake and regrets it.
But that does not mean that you still had painful memories of it all these years later.
By the way. why did she act so ugly about her to a child who is a bit upset?. This wasn't that bad either. So it's completely incomprehensible . She put looks above all other values. This behavior is truly unforgivable.

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Flying Eagle

Violent! But great of you to share, Babita.!
Definitely worth a mention in my 'pest blog overview'. https://y.is/cnIKv
And I would also like to join @Henkjan de Krijger and @Ingrid Tips en meer to. Strength with it!

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enigma

How bad, if even a teacher doesn't have the sense to know what these kinds of actions can do to a child.

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vanrupstotvlinder

vanrupstotvlinder

Bullying can really hurt so much. I recognize so much in your story. You want to tell the person who bullied you for years everything, but the question is how, if then, is the moment of confrontation? I don't know if I could confront someone, think I would... Show moreBullying can really hurt so much. I recognize so much in your story. You want to tell the person who bullied you for years everything, but the question is how, if then, is the moment of confrontation? I don't know if I could confront someone, think I would also walk away and say what I wanted to say in my mind. Bullying destroys more than you'd like. Give you a virtual hug.

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Ingrid

Unfortunately, I know all too well how this feels. Experience it yourself. Being publicly made a fool. But that some people find this necessary, often to feel better. In my mind, like you, I often know (afterwards) what I should have said. Sometimes we are... Show moreUnfortunately, I know all too well how this feels. Experience it yourself. Being publicly made a fool. But that some people find this necessary, often to feel better. In my mind, like you, I often know (afterwards) what I should have said. Sometimes we are so overwhelmed. Good luck, sweetheart.! The young lady in us sometimes still comes up for a drink. Still, it's good to (try) to forgive the other person. (The other person doesn't need to know this.) So we can move on.

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Encaustichris

How incredibly powerful that you spoke to her.! I seriously don't know if I could. I recognize the feeling of going back in time, and then you're just that little girl again. Very well done, I think you got what you could out of it, after all, you weren't prepared, it took you by surprise. Super done! Above all, be proud of yourself!!

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Madeleine

I don't know what to say. makes me sad. I'm so sorry that you had to go through and get through this. I'll hug you from here, I know it's not possible in real life right now, but know that I'm thinking about you and you're brave for sharing this with us. ❤️😘

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kla.tui

Ja wat pesten niet kan doen.heb in mijn jeugd met een groep jongens iemand op een eilandje gezet ik zie nog hoe bang hij was en als lafaard mee gedaan ben 77 jaar en heb er nog een naar gevoel over

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Kinderworkshops Petra

Kinderworkshops Petra

The fact that bullying is even done by children is simply not good. But a teacher or teacher who does this is incomprehensible. They should be the example. I think if you can handle it, you could say the same to her. I wish you a lot of strength.

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willbelysy

How difficult it must have been for you to go through this, luckily this person has regretted what happened, I hope this helped to heal.

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Maria

I am a teacher and I have been doing it for many years, it really saddens me, I hope that this type of teacher is the minority.

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Rudy Siedlecki 🌳

Rudy Siedlecki 🌳

Fortunately, there are now measures to prevent bullying. I wonder how that Teacher would have reacted if you had shaved your hair?

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Madeleine

+100 YP

Sad

Leo 1

Difficult topic. Why do some people (children and adults) bully someone else? And late apologies are common to me: half excuses are worthless.

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Gustavo Perez

It's difficult to deal with these situations and I suppose it also depends on the personality of each individual. But with this we can see that, even if it costs, we must face situations with courage to overcome them and be better. In addition, we hope that... Show moreIt's difficult to deal with these situations and I suppose it also depends on the personality of each individual. But with this we can see that, even if it costs, we must face situations with courage to overcome them and be better. In addition, we hope that that teacher has truly regretted the mistakes she made, and so we see that it is possible for people to change.

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Dewaputra

Yes, that's quite tough to have to face that confrontation again later in life, and I can well imagine you blocked it.

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