Roller coaster... enjoy the ride
My life is a roller coaster...
One with a high free fall and a lot of loopings!
Last November, after many quarrels, discussions and a lot of uncertainty, my husband made it clear to me that he couldn't move on with me anymore.
For so long I had felt it wasn't right anymore, but when I asked about it I got a snooze and I was declared crazy. In retrospect, I turned out to be right all this time... Love was gone... Well okay... stay with someone who no longer sincerely loves you!? (In the beginning I didn't want to divorce, but soon the realisation came) No, then I would be short of him and myself, so get used to the idea and then we started to arrange everything for the divorce. On Valentine's Day, we signed the divorce papers...
Now, the thing is that we had a polyamorous relationship and thus both a partner next to it, and they, too, had a relationship together. (So O and I and R with P)
The day after Valentine's Day, February 15 also P made it clear to R that she did not want to continue with him, with the result that my sweetheart came to me the next day and we suddenly lived together... We love each other very much, everything clicks and having to miss each other is now over... But that this would go so fast was certainly not the intention... If there had been more openness from our partners, we would have been able to talk about it calmly and see how we were going to do it. Now everything suddenly changed in 1 to 2 days, a rollercoaster!!
But despite the hard time I feel happy with him (R), every day next to him to fall asleep and wake up is so nice!!
Now it's waiting for O and P to find a rental house (our house of O and me has to sell) and then R and I continue to live in his house. There is co-parenting for 5 kids... so some adjustments are needed because enough space for everyone is important. Soon to tackle the attic here, that are 2 extra sleeping places... a wall in it, painting, floor and some cozy stuff... The smallest bedroom will be a walk-in closet, there will be a bunk bed for our two girls... and a rollaway bed to save space when L is not around...
It will all be fine, but there is still plenty to arrange and every week 'move' and we exchange as parents from home so that the kids (now that there is no final home yet) can stay in their own place.
A chaotic life right now and a roller coaster ride that is still not completely stationary, but hey... you can scream but also enjoy the ride! We make something beautiful out of it! ♥
#scheiding #scheiden #nieuwerelatie #achtbaan #rollercoaster #verhuizen #uitelkaar #liefde
#polyamorie #polya
Ik ben vorig jaar gescheiden en heb ook kort daarna ongepland een nieuwe vriendin gekregen, ik ben er heel gelukkig mee.
Wens je veel liefde en geluk toe.