Self-sabotage is a common problem that can hold us back from achieving our goals and living our best lives. It's a destructive pattern of behavior that can lead to missed opportunities, failed relationships, and a general feeling of unhappiness and unfulfillment. While self-sabotage can take many forms, it often stems from the beliefs and messages we tell ourselves on a regular basis. Here are five things I kept telling myself that contributed to my own self-sabotage, and how I overcame them.

1. "I'm not good enough"

Lie: I'm not good enough. I had a constant inner dialogue that told me I wasn't smart enough, talented enough, or worthy enough to achieve my dreams. This belief led to a lot of self-doubt and a fear of failure, which caused me to hold back and play it safe in life. I was always looking for validation from others, and never felt confident enough to take risks or pursue my passions.

Truth: I had to realize that this was traits of being a perfectionist. No, I may not be the smartest, the most beautiful or I definitely didn't have much talents. But it's also absolutely not necessary to be all these things. I started taking this as the truth, instead of realizing that most of it was based on my own negative self-talk and not on reality. I also started to focus on my strengths and achievements, and learned to give myself credit for my successes. Over time, I began to build more self-confidence and belief in myself, which allowed me to take more risks and pursue my goals with greater determination.


2. "I don't deserve happiness"

Lie: I commited so many mistakes, I don't deserve happiness. I had a lot of guilt and shame from past mistakes and regrets, and felt like I wasn't worthy of love or success. Let's just say I wasn't the best partner or friend in the past. This led me to self-sabotage by pushing away opportunities for happiness and fulfillment, and engaging in self-destructive behaviors that only made me feel worse.

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