Stepmothers aren't always bad

MAGALY

@magaly1672799018 · 16 Apr 2022

Stepmothers aren't always bad

#history Even before I met my husband, I never thought I'd ever be a stepmother. But when I met her children, I knew she was destined to be. The children at that time 10 and 7 years old were very affectionate and friendly. Together we had fun in everything we did, games, movies, meals. When her dad and I decided to get married on a Christmas, the first thing I thought of buying was not the wedding dress, but a few bunks.
Some time later, exactly four years, after living half the time in their mother's house and the other half in ours, the children moved in with us. Then I went from occasional friend to full-time stepmother and everything changed.
For example, when children came and went there was no need for them to help at home, so they asked them and refused.
On one occasion, when I asked the eldest (who was already a teenager) to set the table, he replied that “no”, that I was not his mother and did not have to obey me.
It was a very hard blow, but it made me understand that the real problem was not the chores of the house, but to make clear the role of each one in our family life, which was getting complicated by that time.
I told my stepson that he was right, I wasn't his mother, but that I loved him and that we needed to help each other.
Although a stepmother or stepfather plays the role of a mother or father, it is not.
You can help kids with homework, take them and bring them to school, to the dentist, hug them and laugh with them, but you also have to learn to step aside from time to time.
As happened in the confirmation of the minor, in which there were only two places reserved in front for our family. I decided to go sit in the back. It was painful but I didn't take it to heart.
Nowadays my stepchildren are adults and they know that they count on me to talk or advise them on any problem and I know that I count on them too. Affection and love exist, although we are not bound by a blood tie.