Wat zijn de goede voornemens voor 2023?

Ingrid

2 years ago

Off topic: Great, by the way, “The community where you're seen”.

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Madeleine

2 years ago

@Ingrid Tips en meer By definition, there is nothing wrong with perfection, but it can certainly be your pitfall if you strive for it too much. I speak from extensive experience and I really had to learn how to get rid of cognitive behavioral therapy. It... Show more @Ingrid Tips en meer By definition, there is nothing wrong with perfection, but it can certainly be your pitfall if you strive for it too much. I speak from extensive experience and I really had to learn how to get rid of cognitive behavioral therapy. It doesn't have to be 300%, not even 100%, but 70 or 80% is also good. Something that works 70 or 80% well can succeed even better than something that is 300%. So I've completely moved away from perfection. Good thing you're working on this and keeping it in a journal. It's always helpful to share your experiences.

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Madeleine

2 years ago

@Ingrid Tips en meer yes, this is how I experience and I think many Yoorsbloggers share with me that Yoors is a safe place where you are at the center as a person, as a blogger. We are not users here, but people. Human to human, as Henkjan says.

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Ingrid

2 years ago

Thanks @Madeleine “By definition, there is nothing wrong with perfection.” Once. At the same time, I also think: “Define perfection” (in general) 😉 I want to share experiences, but it's also scary, because then (again) I'll be (very) vulnerable. I'll think about that for a while.

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Ingrid

2 years ago

@Madeleine Certainly it is a safe place. (I don't have to worry about Yoors bloggers either. They treat each other properly. :))

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Madeleine

2 years ago

@Ingrid Tips en meer just give it time is my advice. I did this process when I was 21 and I'm 47 now. Only since I joined Yoors have I really dared to share those experiences. Previously, there wasn't as safe a place as Yoors to share that, but I wasn't... Show more @Ingrid Tips en meer just give it time is my advice. I did this process when I was 21 and I'm 47 now. Only since I joined Yoors have I really dared to share those experiences. Previously, there wasn't as safe a place as Yoors to share that, but I wasn't ready either. Over the past seven years, I have also made personal development at Yoors in several areas, so that I have grown again. Not that it will take you so long to dare to share that, of course, but the most important thing is that it has to be completely balanced for yourself first. Then that will really come after that. Because at some point, that new insight will become your own, so that you will apply it more and more. That's not to say that perfection will never happen to me again. It's always a while, your pitfall and triggers can cause you to re-cultivate perfectionism, but if you keep training yourself to do this, you can keep perfectionism in check. You just go into a different level, you make things beautiful and you're sharp, but you don't fail.

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Ingrid

2 years ago

Yes, Rome wasn't built overnight either, @Madeleine . In the past, I've already had things. openly posted (e.g. on Yoors). Afraid of being snickered or something?. But I'm me. I'll look for the therapy you mentioned. Nevertheless, I try to do it in my own... Show moreYes, Rome wasn't built overnight either, @Madeleine . In the past, I've already had things. openly posted (e.g. on Yoors). Afraid of being snickered or something?. But I'm me. I'll look for the therapy you mentioned. Nevertheless, I try to do it in my own (own) way. Yes, exactly, too is never good #doorslaan. Thank you for your comments and have a great day.

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Madeleine

2 years ago

@Ingrid Tips en meer yes, that's how it is! 2 books that could really help you anyway are
“Think strong” and “Space for yourself: and emotionally balanced” by Fred Sterk & Sjoerd Swaen.

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Ingrid

2 years ago

@Madeleine Thanks for the tips, will remember. A book by Judith Webber, about self-love, is also coming up. It's on my wish list. Following her on Facebook or Instagram is a treat. So open, great. Beautiful reflections.

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