typically. Perfection was unconsciously my pitfall. Wanting to do it (too) well, that made me walk on my toes. One of my intentions is not to do that anymore. Consider what is' necessary 'or not. My theme for this year: “Positivity and Self-Love”. Agenda ren... Show moretypically. Perfection was unconsciously my pitfall. Wanting to do it (too) well, that made me walk on my toes. One of my intentions is not to do that anymore. Consider what is' necessary 'or not. My theme for this year: “Positivity and Self-Love”. Agenda renamed a journal type. What was positive about the day and what do I like about myself?. Nice to look back on later. (I hope to see growth.) If this' project 'is successful, I want to expand and/or publish it. Help others with it too. I'm sure something like that already exists, but I'll give it my own twist.
@Ingrid Tips en meer By definition, there is nothing wrong with perfection, but it can certainly be your pitfall if you strive for it too much. I speak from extensive experience and I really had to learn how to get rid of cognitive behavioral therapy. It... Show more@Ingrid Tips en meer By definition, there is nothing wrong with perfection, but it can certainly be your pitfall if you strive for it too much. I speak from extensive experience and I really had to learn how to get rid of cognitive behavioral therapy. It doesn't have to be 300%, not even 100%, but 70 or 80% is also good. Something that works 70 or 80% well can succeed even better than something that is 300%. So I've completely moved away from perfection. Good thing you're working on this and keeping it in a journal. It's always helpful to share your experiences.
@Ingrid Tips en meer yes, this is how I experience and I think many Yoorsbloggers share with me that Yoors is a safe place where you are at the center as a person, as a blogger. We are not users here, but people. Human to human, as Henkjan says.
Thanks @Madeleine “By definition, there is nothing wrong with perfection.” Once. At the same time, I also think: “Define perfection” (in general) 😉 I want to share experiences, but it's also scary, because then (again) I'll be (very) vulnerable. I'll think about that for a while.
@Ingrid Tips en meer just give it time is my advice. I did this process when I was 21 and I'm 47 now. Only since I joined Yoors have I really dared to share those experiences. Previously, there wasn't as safe a place as Yoors to share that, but I wasn't... Show more@Ingrid Tips en meer just give it time is my advice. I did this process when I was 21 and I'm 47 now. Only since I joined Yoors have I really dared to share those experiences. Previously, there wasn't as safe a place as Yoors to share that, but I wasn't ready either. Over the past seven years, I have also made personal development at Yoors in several areas, so that I have grown again. Not that it will take you so long to dare to share that, of course, but the most important thing is that it has to be completely balanced for yourself first. Then that will really come after that. Because at some point, that new insight will become your own, so that you will apply it more and more. That's not to say that perfection will never happen to me again. It's always a while, your pitfall and triggers can cause you to re-cultivate perfectionism, but if you keep training yourself to do this, you can keep perfectionism in check. You just go into a different level, you make things beautiful and you're sharp, but you don't fail.
Yes, Rome wasn't built overnight either, @Madeleine . In the past, I've already had things. openly posted (e.g. on Yoors). Afraid of being snickered or something?. But I'm me. I'll look for the therapy you mentioned. Nevertheless, I try to do it in my own... Show moreYes, Rome wasn't built overnight either, @Madeleine . In the past, I've already had things. openly posted (e.g. on Yoors). Afraid of being snickered or something?. But I'm me. I'll look for the therapy you mentioned. Nevertheless, I try to do it in my own (own) way. Yes, exactly, too is never good #doorslaan. Thank you for your comments and have a great day.
@Ingrid Tips en meer yes, that's how it is! 2 books that could really help you anyway are
“Think strong” and “Space for yourself: and emotionally balanced” by Fred Sterk & Sjoerd Swaen.
@Madeleine Thanks for the tips, will remember. A book by Judith Webber, about self-love, is also coming up. It's on my wish list. Following her on Facebook or Instagram is a treat. So open, great. Beautiful reflections.