Why Are There More & More Single Women?

Getting married and having a family seemed to be the greatest trophy of a woman in the days of grandmothers. It was the absolute representation of success and perhaps the only thing that would be required of us throughout our lives. Times have evolved and with them the feminine mentality. Today we care more about studying and educating ourselves; the main reason why being someone's partner, wife, or mother is no longer the preferred option. According to a study published in the British newspaper Sunday Times, "the more intelligent a woman is, the more difficult it is for her to marry."

The research, developed by several English universities, affirms that the fact that a woman can boast of having a great intellect, limits, in turn, the possibilities that she has of finding love. This is mainly because intelligent women are also more demanding, and do not give someone who does not fully meet their expectations the title of partner.

To reach this conclusion, the study included 900 men and women who were first interviewed when they were 11 years old and followed up to find out what happened to their lives 40 years later. The results indicate that women are 40% less likely to marry if they are successful, especially those with university and postgraduate studies. At the other extreme, the equation for men is the other way around, since the more prepared they are and the higher the IQ they have, they gain a 35% chance of saying "yes" at the altar.

Another of the interesting data that the experiment yielded and that could appear as one of the latent reasons why there are more single women in society every day, is that, according to statistics, 35% of marriages last less than 5 years. The causes of this are varied, but I could highlight among all the facts that the new generations have been created with the individualism that puts marital commitment at risk.

This topic has been discussed many, many times. The debate on the feminine revolution around marriage has been open for decades and already in the 90s the American psychologist Steven Carter and Julia Sokol, defended in their book "The fear of commitment", that far from what was believed, the Gamophobia or marriage phobia, was not a problem that only attacked men, but appeared in both sexes equally. The specialists said that marriage is no longer the goal and the fundamental condition to be someone in life. Now women have their jobs, their professions, and great potential for advancement in their careers. Thus, the majority are afraid of being locked in a traditional and unhappy relationship.

What is really true is that for one reason or another, being single today cannot be seen as a failure. Neither should women feel bad about it, nor there should be any social reproach, especially when science has argued in multiple studies that staying single is a better option than getting married.

As mentioned before, being in a relationship can be seen as the greatest success of life but the reality is that, according to science, being single is a better option.

Singleness is usually related to loneliness and heartbreak, but the reality is that behind this common sentimental state there is much more and there is not a negative feeling exactly. A study has revealed that being single is better for people than being in a relationship.

The research, developed by the psychologist Bella De Paulo, from the University of California in the USA, ensures that singles have a greater sense of self-determination and can experience constant personal development and growth. To reach this conclusion, the doctor studied and analyzed 800 investigations on this topic carried out in the last 30 years.

People who have been single their entire life have been analyzed and different studies have shown that they develop better self-sufficiency helping them to avoid in less rate, negative emotions than others who have had different stable relationships. In married people, the opposite happened, says the researcher, adding that the main objective of her study was to disprove the traditional belief that marriage makes people happier, healthier, and longer-lived.

De Paulo's report also details that in life true relationships should not be limited only to the marital bond or the bonds between parents and children. The doctor said that singles are more connected to parents, siblings, friends, neighbors, and co-workers than married people, concluding that today there is the growing popularity of singleness, although the reasons for choosing it rarely obtain recognition, due to prejudice and discrimination.

In this way, several psychologists remind us that being single is not a bad thing at all (and we know that perhaps this reminder needs to be heard more by your grandmother, with her endless questions about why you do not have a partner, than you). Nothing is a problem in the field of love if you are satisfied and with it, you do not hurt anyone. That is the key to emotional health: do not harm yourself or others, respecting the freedom of choice of all parties.

In some countries of the world, for the first time in history, the number of single people exceeds the number of married people. In fact, there are more and more single women, single mothers, and women who have chosen not to be mothers. Even The Better Sleep Council conducted a study that pointed out that those who sleep alone have a better quality of sleep, meaning that the advantages of being single are many. Even Singles Day (November 11) is increasingly celebrated in the world.

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