Massage vs Cocktails
I can't remember what I 'wanted to be' if I grew up later. If someone asked me, “what do you want to be later when you grow up?', I think I said 'something with horses'. I was his girl who was just doing horses. 1 horse plus 1 horse are 2 horses. As a girl of (I believe) 5 years old I was allowed to go to a Riding School in Heemstede.
But I also fantasized about having my own horse. In my experience, I thought that was possible in a terraced house in the middle of Heemstede.
You put a horse trailer in the front yard as a stable, because at the equestrian center they were still in a walk-in stable (if I think about that now, I think, oh, a little pathetic. But then I didn't know better). I can walk with the pony every day and let it eat grass, and I also want that little grass in the backyard. But I also thought that the pony could eat the grass nicely in all the gardens. That saves lawn mowing again.
However, my parents don't like that.
MAJORCA
As a young girl, we went to Mallorca on vacation 2 or 3 times. I remember when I liked the pool the most, and the sea less. That was because there was an abundance of sea urchins. There were regularly people coming out of the water who had stood on his animal and, in my opinion, were very pain at the stab wound and had to go to the doctor to have the spine removed.
There were also people chasing those things and then cutting them open and eating them on the beach. The chills go over my back again.
What I also know well is that we went out after dinner. My brother and I were still allowed to swim, or we crossed the promenade. In both cases it ended with an ice cream for us and a cocktail for my mother, what my father drank, I don't remember. I now know it's a cocktail my mom drank.
Then it was a mysterious drink.!!! It was different from the other. It was often pink/orange in color, a pink sugar border, two colored straws, a rainbow-colored fan and all big fruit on the edge of the glass.
People when I look back to that now also go the shivers all over my back. WHAT A FAIR that glass!!!
But oh well, I know that's where my love for cocktails came about.
OWN PONY
Quite a lot of years later, I had my own pony Olivier. A fjord I got when he was 7 months old. He was in an equestrian center on Erica, and he had the age and experience (just like me) that we could go out together. We took our rider out there, participated in mutual matches and followed a police/arrange training.
On a Friday afternoon there was a dad of a fellow rider and pony owner. His daughter was also much to be found at the equestrian center like me. Only she was too young to go there herself, so she was brought. Her dad then went to do chores or chat with everyone.
After grooming, riding, cleaning up, preparing stables, we sat in the cafeteria with a club. The dad came to us and asked who wants to earn a pocket penny tomorrow on Saturday. I was 20 years old at the time and saw that. I got fl 25.00 an hour and just had to walk with a tray with drinks.
THE HOSPITALITY INDUSTRY
It's Saturday evening and I'm as bleu as I am in a sports hall in front of a mega huge bar with up to 8 people behind, all kinds of dishes. Cola, orange, 7up, orange juice, apple juice, water with and without bubbles. When I look around me, I see long tables with chairs, a very large stage, disco lights, music boxes. It has been unpacked as if a concert is going to take place, but that everyone is in it. The bar I stand for is also mirrored. So across the street is exactly the same. There, too, they are busy preparing the glasses and drinks.
The instruction talk was told that it is about a wedding of his 600 guests and that a band butt is performing.
THE assignment was as soon as you see a half full glass, you add a new one, or you ask if they want to drink another glass.
Not that hard, I thought.
But oh oh oh, I walked the lungs out of my body. But what a great night. My love for the hospitality industry was born at that time!
COCKTAILS
My career as a hostess is on the rise. I have been working at centerparcs for some time, where I enjoy going almost every day. In addition to my work in the restaurant, I can stand behind the bar in ZAK on Saturday. That's really my thing.! I'm free behind my bar, where I don't suffer from tribulation of the amount of visitors. I give you your drink, I have lovely book boom music that I dance to, I also get to drink what I want, and I still get money for it too.
Bar work is it for me. I also notice that when I stand behind the bar at the action factory at centerparcs, I also think I'm good at it.
I end up at the Cocktail Academy in Amsterdam. If you take your course there, you have a stepping stone to work on a cruise boat. I also saw that all for me. Okay, that finally didn't get him out. But I did end up at the Dutch bartenders club, where I learned a lot by participating in cocktail competitions.
In this hospitality time, I didn't have a boyfriend, and I lived nice 'free'. There were some attempts, but for whatever reason it wasn't. It didn't fit into my life. It was me, my Olivier and my work. The cocktails had to be invented that I wanted to make at a competition. At centerparcs I wasn't allowed to tinker, so I did that at home. Colleagues, /friends came along and we went for a taste. Or I did it all my own and threw away everything I had tasted and made.
I scored higher and higher with the cocktails and wanted more. My career as a now independent hostess at centerparcs did come to an end. Also because I didn't like anything with the cocktails. On today's day, that's sooooo shame. A tropical environment and then donate such a dredge what they still do today. Well, their lack!
Because of a colleague I end up at the Grand in Amsterdam and from that moment on I really get into the air in terms of knowledge about not only drinks but also people's knowledge, the knowledge of life (oh that sounds heavy).
So I have stefan in my life. I have to choose and share. With all the pain in my heart, I part with my beloved Olivier. He gets a fantastic house in Oosterhesselen with Jan and Janny. . Because of my work, it just doesn't succeed in giving him the love and attention he deserves and needs. I give him away with all the hope in the world that he can stay there for the rest of his life.!
I literally fly across the world to show off my arts. In Singapore, I get to take a bar course of 3 weeks of intensive learning about the classic bartender profession. Sitting at a table during the day, listening to the teacher who is of Chinese descent and talks English. And when the class is ready to a hospitality opportunity to dine there and go into a club to see how they work there. I can tell you that you come home heavily exhausted. After those 3 weeks.
BEING A MOTHER
Stefan and I got married on 08-08-2008. And in April 2010, our handsome, sweet daughter Bryanne was born. Because of my pregnancy, it was quite a challenge to keep my cocktail catering company that I had running. With a pretty big belly and the necessary complaints, turning a bar together or lugging crates was not what., so I did more and more outsource that to my passionate colleagues.
Being a mama is hard for me! The recovery, physically, is not very fast and emotional, we're not going to talk about it. But the love for my beautiful girl is unprecedented. My life is all about my wonderful daughter, unleashing feelings that I didn't know existed. Wanting to take care of is so intense that it hurts if it is not met as needed.
From April/May, the cocktail season will start, from that moment on the offers also come in for cocktail catering and workshops for e.g. weddings, company party, BBQ's, stag parties, birthdays and so on.
I feel about everything that weakens the passion, the inspiration and creativity is getting less. Is that because I became a mom.? dunno. But every time I have to make a quote or have a cocktail assignment, I have mixed feelings that I didn't know could. I was able to talk a hundred out about my cocktails. Its build-up, creating new flavors, giving the illusion that you were going to have a strawberry sweet drink, but in reality got it against the contrary. Every sense had to be stimulated. But now I had to look for where my passion left off. My lust to stand behind the bar was kind of a bygone. I lost myself. Or did I give it to Bryanne.?
The mixed feelings of being a mom and having a mom my own was also more than difficult. That also brought a very negative emotion. Also a lot of questions I knew I will never get answered.
I'll never know if my mom felt that same love for me as I feel for Bryanne. Did she also have that urge to want to take good care of me? Deep in my heart, I think I should know that it does. Although I know now that she had a borderliner and that might be the reason that everything went the way it went. The grief and lack of my own mother is there, and will always be.
Maybe that's THE fight I have with myself day after day. my urge to want to be a better/different mother for my child (jes). Is that why my cocktail passion has been lost?
Because after the birth of Myrthe, it went down even more mountain. My life was all about little children at that time. What do you want if there's 14 months between on the day?. April 21, 2010 and 21-06-2011, days to NEVER forget.!!!
MASSAGE
My day of teaching at the ROC in The Hague was over and had a message from a lady who wanted a cocktail assignment for her mother's birthday. This was the day I met a masseuse who came to the people's home. After completing the order of the cocktails on a beautiful summer day in giethoorn, I stayed in contact with her and she became my masseuse.
Because she massaged me, there was an interest in this beautiful profession. Also because stefan asked more and more often if I wanted to squeeze his feet because they hurt so much, but also his back was sensitive for more day.
After some detective work about a massage course, I ended up at the LOI.
The cocktail assignments were becoming less and more and more opposed to leaving home. Stefan was more and more gone. Nanny was really just grandma. But Myrthe, too, her difficulties was difficult for me to let go if I had to leave her behind when I went to the job.
I enrolled in the LOI massage course and started a new chapter with full courage. I was introduced to different styles and learned what is allowed and what is especially not.
After a year and a half, I had completed the entire course.
Classic massage, hot stone, depth massage, foot, hand and face massage. I started my own home studio. First in my bedroom to practice. And then really my own space with shower, toilet and divine underfloor heating.
By now, we are a year or 5 further. We have moved as a family to a beautiful large farm house where we have 8000m2
have land. And after 12 years of absence, my lovely wonderful Olivier is back to me. My support and support has been 27 years now and may wear out his old age with me. Together with Lars (fjord of 21) and Sjors (Shetlander 13 years), he shares the paddock and the country with 8 goats and 2 sheep.
My massage studio slowly transformed into a massage practice. This is because I found my new love.
You know, the work in the hospitality industry is to take care of the guests who come to you, and that is the same in my massage practice.
I am now just like standing behind the bar, the founder of the positive emotion. “The manager of moods”. You can and can tell your story. My goal is to help the people who lie on my massage table. Massage is so underestimated. Both mental and physical. Can you tell a whole story about that now why it's all good?. I'm not going to do that, you have to experience.
That I started this morning with this story, I thought I wanted to talk about a headache. But the result is a piece of passion, bygone passion that flows into new passion.
For those genius who know me know how I started to develop from LOI course masseuse to almost sports masseuse.
I also enjoyed doing and achieved the course teacher shantala baby masssge, pregnancy massage, Shantala child massage, Hotstone, cupping, hand and foot, and more will follow!
I hope to complete the sport masseur training in June and may I also call myself an official sports masseur in addition to masseuse.
That's how you see that you never know how it goes.
Have a good day dear people.
#massage #cocktail #passie #careers #mother #motherschap
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