Stop fat shaming... stop bigotry... stop the preconceptions...
I didn't like being bullied because I'm fat, but it became normal. I found it annoying that a lot of people told me not to eat so much, but I got used to it. That people told me how “better” I was after losing 12 kg on my umpteenth diet was rude, but I learned to live with it. The fact that I was really turned inside out during my pregnancy and was told over and over again that I was a patient at risk because I am overweight was completely satisfied, but I resigned myself to it. That a saleswoman in a clothing store (where I wanted to buy something for my daughter) looked at me and came to tell me that I wouldn't find anything in my size, but I didn't say anything about it. But what happened to me recently made me really speechless, sad and angry!
Right now I'm walking around with a herniated disc in the lower back. A painful but, above all, very difficult affair. The scan shows this and my doctor also confirmed it. Because I don't like painkillers and anti-inflammatories that make me walk around like a drugged rabbit, the doctor referred me to the orthopedics department at the hospital to see the possibilities.
What I heard there from a doctor who had never seen me before, who also didn't bother to look at my medical history and didn't ask me any questions about the pain, really stunned me.
He said it like this:
“For someone like you, there is only one solution and that is a stomach reduction. I'm surprised you can still stand up with all that weight your back has to carry. There is no herniated disc here, a farmer of your age who works in the fields every day may complain of back pain, but you simply owe it to yourself. And because you won't keep up with a strict diet and gym anyway, a stomach reduction is the solution for you. By the way, I'm not going to do a cortisone injection with you either, because then there will be a few more kilos. Swimming is also good for the back, but yes, someone like you probably wouldn't dare to show up in a bathing suit either, of course. "
