Why is it easier for me to give compliments than to give criticism?
As human beings, we are wired to seek validation and approval from others. Complimenting someone comes naturally to us because it makes us feel good to see others feel good about themselves. However, telling someone they did something wrong can be a difficult task. Why is it so much easier to give a compliment than to give constructive criticism? Let’s take a closer look at this phenomenon.
As I reflect on my communication style, I've noticed that complimenting others comes much more easily to me than telling someone they did something wrong. I've often wondered why this is the case. Lately I had to tell someone they smell and it was the most difficult thing I ever had to say to someone.
I like seeing people smile
One reason why complimenting comes more naturally to me is that it's a positive experience. Seeing others feel good about themselves makes me feel good, too. It's a win-win situation. However, delivering criticism can be awkward and uncomfortable for me, as well as the other person.
The way their face lights up and the smile that appears later on just is to die for. I am delighted to see. But criticizing someone never delivers that smile, and i always cringe if I have to be upfront with someone and see them grin.
