Het verlies van mijn zusje Wanda

Unfortunately, I don't have a brother or sister myself, losing one due to premature death must leave a big void.

@Rudy Siedlecki 🌳 Yes, a sibling is your longest-lasting relationship, so a young death comes with a lifetime loss.

Ingeborgenzwerm

Read with a lump in my throat, with tears in my eyes, how clearly you wrote this down, great.

@Ingeborgenzwerm Sweet that you say that, and nice that it moves. So many siblings experience this without being seen and heard. So thank you !!

Yvonne Coppens

Yes, that's certainly true. Sharing is healing. Sharing your feelings and your emotions is the absolute best thing you can do. Of course, this can be done by talking about it, but also writing, singing, painting, drawing are forms to express your sadness and... Show moreYes, that's certainly true. Sharing is healing. Sharing your feelings and your emotions is the absolute best thing you can do. Of course, this can be done by talking about it, but also writing, singing, painting, drawing are forms to express your sadness and pain. Mourning is raw, that affects every person in a different way and we should think about that a little more often. 💚💚

the_doctormom

I haven't experienced any sibling loss...your experience makes me sit and think of the situation and the grief would be unbearable

@the_doctormom Thank you for your compassionate reply. For me, personally, the silence sibling loss is met with is many times harder than the loss itself. It used to feel for me as if her very existence was being denied.

Mimi Ca.

You are definitely right... Show moreYou are definitely right mate.
Nothing compares to having a brother, those who accompany you through life while you grow up, those who see you cry, laugh, fight, among many other things.
I have 2 brothers, and I love them with all my heart. I know that unfortunately not everyone can get along with their siblings.
But those who can, what a blessing it is for them.
I get along well with my brothers, however sometimes we have arguments because of our differences. But that will never get around the fact that I love them.
Thanks for talking about this topic, mourning is mourning, no matter which pain seems more important than the other. All pain to the heart must be taken important. And every loss is also important. Whoever you are, Friend, Mother, Brother, Partner, Nephew, Neighbor, among others.

@emily Molina I appreciate your comments, and I take joy from your love for your brothers. Siblings have a highly unique relationship - the longest living relationship anyone can have with anyone.

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Dana

When I was almost dead, my eldest brother visited me in the hospital every day from work. He held my hand silently. I think his grieving process if I died would have much more impact if my then husband's and my mother's. Those two would be able to claim their mourning, my brother didn't. I've had a lot on his visits, more than I can put into words.

@Dana what touching nice to read 🙏 and so nice that you share this 😘

Madeleine

How sad that you lost your sister?. I think it's very brave of you that you share this with us. There must be no difference between grieving. It is equally bad for everyone involved that it happens. A lot of strength and strength desired.

enigma

Great that you want to pay attention to this. Fortunately, I have no experience with it.

Loes

It's good that you're asking attention to this. As you say, there is no mourning, grieving. Every grief is sadness. The sibling bond can be very strong, that it can even feel if a part of yourself is disappearing. And you grant them so much more. You keep wondering why so early.

Tiny Tales of mom and K

This is such an intense topic to discuss, I lost my brother when I was only 12 years old, back then I never let anyone discuss/ask about it, because I was under impression that it pokes my parents healing wounds. Now after I become a mother I realized those wounds will never heal.

Ingrid

Everyone has the right to grieve. And I'm someone who does ask sisters how they're doing after such a loss.

@Ingrid Tips en meer It's very nice that you ask. You really are a minority. Not because those other people are not good, but because socially it is not a habit to ask the surviving siblings.

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Little Ekko

I think it's unfortunate what you've been through. It's really hard to think that it's a time when you can't escape.

Alfred

The closest loss I had was with my grandfather, he was and is the most valuable person to me, One way to release the pain was by writing, I know it's hard but it's good to think that they are still somehow with us, deep condolences.

Betania202

are difficult moments in life where we learn that not everything is forever that we are like a fragile crystal

Mary Ortega

thank you for sharing this story with everyone, it is really regrettable to go through a loss and more when it is a brother

Daniel

Writing and Sharing her feelings is a way to be able to free and heal all that pain, I must say that she is a very strong woman grief is never easy I hope on my part she is better

Michell

It's a sad story I haven't really been through that and I'm afraid that I know that at some point we humans must go through a loss

Alberto

It was hard for me to read this I lost a sister years ago and it was very painful my deepest sympathy companion

alexandersolano091

feelings are different in each person losing a loved one is a very strong thing and losing one more brother

Gollo

It shouldn't be easy, although I haven't been through these, but I imagine we all grew up together and despite the age we are still close and it would hurt a lot to lose some of them, as I know they too if it were me, of course it's a duel the loss of a sister.

Freli

The death of such a close relative is not easy, My question is how are you following the whole mourning process? I hope you're better

fanny

It is good to heal Mrs. Saskia, I am also going through that and it is very hard to see that she is not going to be there anymore and to be able to talk to her to hold her or say I love you sister, I am very sorry because I know that there is an empty, a pain 🤗🤗

@fanny I am also sorry for your loss. Your sibling is your longest living relation. Painful to go through. I have processed my grief. The absence is for life. Especially at family moments, like when my parents passed on.

Live_love_laugh

No matter what blood connection you have with someone, it matters what that person was their place in your life, how you connected to them, what determines your degree of loss. Grieving is indeed necessary, how and how much depends on each person. Good thing you pay attention to this

@Live_love_laugh A sibling is your longest-lasting relationship. I'm over the grief. The loss remains. Especially at family moments, such as the farewell after my parents die.

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franciscoaraujos2000

Every loss of a loved one is painful, but even more so that of a brother because it is the one closest to us, our confidant friend brother.

De verhalenheks

Beautifully worded, it became quiet. Luckily I still have my sister but idd too little is written about what the loss of a sister or brother does to you.

ppoli61

No, you're right, pains cannot be compared. One can also suffer a lot for a small thing and a little for a great loss. Everyone has their own way of reacting to and going through suffering. When I was 5, my mother lost the baby she was carrying and I still... Show moreNo, you're right, pains cannot be compared. One can also suffer a lot for a small thing and a little for a great loss. Everyone has their own way of reacting to and going through suffering. When I was 5, my mother lost the baby she was carrying and I still remember that grief and the pain that ensued for the whole family. After many years I have had another brother with whom I don't get along, but that's another story.

It is very sad to see a loved one leave even more so if it is a brother because he is our friend, confidante companion, it is a pain that we never manage to forget, we only learn to live with him forever.

Dana

I respond tomorrow, on mobile I find it difficult to respond to such an intense topic