Discuss loneliness and connect

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I read an interesting piece of loneliness this week.
King William Alexander recently mentioned during his speech that together we can do something against the loneliness virus. Because of this corona time, many people are forced to stay at home or are not allowed to receive a visit.
Loneliness not only occurs among the elderly, but also remarkably among young people.
But is loneliness what's today?? And why is loneliness usually referred to as “pathetic”??
That's interesting things to talk about. Why do we often find it difficult and is there another taboo that we don't discuss this with each other?? Also, the thought that if you make a lot of friends and be more among people doesn't work for everyone. That doesn't take away that lonely feeling for everyone.
There's a difference between social loneliness and emotional loneliness.
In social loneliness, we lack certain social contacts that we experience as painful or negative.
With emotional loneliness, the feeling is much more intense and you miss someone you want to share your feelings with.
Loneliness can be temporary, but also develop chronically.
Factors such as poverty, culture and poor care are at risk that contribute to loneliness.

Sociologist Leen Heylen states that loneliness is part of life and everyone will recognize that feeling to a certain extent. She wrote a PhD on loneliness among the elderly and concludes that our view on loneliness is often biased. Her 2015 research revealed that 25% of the elderly felt lonely, but 75% lived a fun social life, but 75% are too little spoken of.
Loneliness is often unjustified in the news as it is that we are all too much I-oriented in society or that it's because of social media use, but loneliness isn't just today.
In the past, loneliness was there among our grandparents, and then people were in a bad marriage, for example, and felt lonely for many years. People went on, there was no talk about it, no way out.
Loneliness has always been and will persist.

What we need to do is make it negotiable and break certain cliches.
Loneliness is not always or often visible.
If someone loses a partner, we find it all very bad and sad and is therefore socially accepted.
We often mind, but move on with our lives. That person still feels lonely. Being a listening ear for those and being there for them is crucial that they don't end up in a vicious circle of loneliness. Other groups of people, such as carers who need to be ready day and night to take care of their sick partner, often no longer have time for social contacts and become lonely.
But even within the relationship, there is often no time for you to discuss your loneliness, because you don't want to burden your sick partner with it. All this kind of feelings are not weird, but belong to loneliness.

There is also a difference between the need for social contacts.
Some people like having a big circle of friends, others like having a few friends. Yet others feel the most comfortable when they are on their own.
It doesn't have to mean that those who are on their own are “pathetic” or lonely.
Someone who has a large group of social contacts may just as well feel lonely.
It is important to maintain social contacts what is desirable for you and, above all, it's very important to be in touch with yourself.
What matters to you, what do you need and what else needs?.
This allows you to connect with yourself and connect with other people and between people.
This is of great importance to counter the loneliness virus.
Connect, together, make it negotiable every time!

@Henkjan the Warrior made this post about what we as Yoors can do together against the loneliness virus.

Young people are struggling at the moment.