Gay is okay!
Okay, the title, I think, is telling. Although.... Imagine: you are a boy or a girl, young or old, and you have feelings, sexual feelings. And then it turns out that as a boy you get creeps in your belly from boys. Or you're a girl, and you get creeps in your belly from girls. That can be pretty confusing! Or: you get creeps in your belly from girls and boys, or.... you're a boy, but you feel like a girl, or vice versa! It happens daily thousands whether boys and girls, young and old! Every day there are men and women who notice that their feelings may be different from “average”. Well, whether course, I could say: be glad you were born in this century: nowadays it's not a problem anymore, but I'll do whole populations short. Because you know? Also in the 21st century it can be quite confusing, and scary to discover your feelings. Because what to do with it? And what does that mean for you? My personal story in a nutcap? I was about 23 years old when I noticed that I didn't have the feelings that my girlfriends did. I did not desire boys, did not look at them any different than women. In fact, I often liked women better, and at least I understood them; -). When I dared to admit that for myself, I thought, “Am I a lesbian now? And do I have to go tell everyone that right now? The panic already struck me at the idea. Fortunately, my environment reacted very well. Speeches like: “I'm not surprised”, “I hope you will be happy”, and “I think it's very difficult for you especially” helped me. And then there was friend J. And he said, “You're just gonna be the same Christel you've always been to me.” I'm still grateful to her, because that's what it's like! Years later, I realized that I was not gay, but bi-sexual. And what does it matter? I love people, I do not fall on a genital organ. Our Yoorsian @adamleanderthewarrior had also recently been coming out, here on Yoors, how tough is that?! Give this tough bink ff a heart, you can do that below. Rating as bi - Read more But let's go back: suppose your son or daughter comes up with the announcement whether being gay, lesbian, bi (I leave transgender aside for a moment, because I don't see them as “gay”, my personal opinion). I imagine you'll have to swallow. You may have already caught signals, but maybe not at all. But you know? Your son or daughter, or boyfriend, girlfriend was gay before he/she told you! And you know: he/she may have struggled a lot with that already, and it's actually a compliment that you were chosen to tell! And are you the gay in question? Just think about how long it took you to accept it yourself, and give the other one a moment to process your communication.. Of course, that can be scary, especially when someone is important to you! But you remain the same person, hopefully only a little happier after you know how you feel! After reading Adam's blog, I had to think whether my own coming out, but also whether a poem, which I would like to share with you here. It comes from the book: Thuiscoming, by Marjo van Rijckeghem: What is against two people who love each other who love each other, tender and warm who can make love who live and work lusts and burdens talk and bickering parties or build parties at home quarrel and reconcile love children or not be moody and cheerful search and find solutions sleeping and dreaming hating cats or not worrying and thinking choose for each other or break up weeping and laughing watching TV, reading books and knitting What can be against even if those two people, two women whether are two men. From: Coming home, scenes from a lesbian existence, Marjo van Rijckeghem. Let's accept each other as we are, we're all human. Gay is okay! #lgbtq #gayisoke #queer #lesbian #bi #lifelong
