The loss of my little sister Wanda
In 1999, my little sister Wanda died. She was 30 years old. I wrote a book about the route from loss to free, titled I miss Wanda.
The loss of a sibling receives little social attention. Very few. In the first few years, I was particularly surprised at that.
The more stories I read from people who, like me, have lost a sibling, the clearer it becomes that attention to this topic is very important. A major common denominator among the untouched and broken siblings is that one often feels alone — rarely asked how it is with that sibling. This is enhanced by the feeling that lives with many grieving siblings who see the suffering of their parents, as well as the suffering of partner who may or may not be left with children.
Due to the care of other loved ones, brothers and sisters often ignore their own grief. Often they find the grief of that partner (with or without children growing up) or the parents also 'bigger' or 'worse' than their own grief. I also recognize this myself and I find it extremely always to read that my feeling about this is no exception.
But it's not a matter of comparing, who has more grief. There is no stage of comparison of mourning, grieving, mourning. The relationship to a sibling is so obvious that it can easily be looked over, with all the consequences that entails. The conclusion must be that a sibling also needs space, time and recognition to grieve.
I would like to contribute to a healthy, beneficial social discussion about the impact of losing a brother or sister. That is why I sincerely invite everyone to comment on this article. Grieving is necessary, grieving together is beneficial and being allowed to grieve offers a future perspective.
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Nothing compares to having a brother, those who accompany you through life while you grow up, those who see you cry, laugh, fight, among many other things.
I have 2 brothers, and I love them with all my heart. I know that unfortunately not everyone can get along with their siblings.
But those who can, what a blessing it is for them.
I get along well with my brothers, however sometimes we have arguments because of our differences. But that will never get around the fact that I love them.
Thanks for talking about this topic, mourning is mourning, no matter which pain seems more important than the other. All pain to the heart must be taken important. And every loss is also important. Whoever you are, Friend, Mother, Brother, Partner, Nephew, Neighbor, among others.