Hij dwong me tot een abortus


Elke dag kijk ik even op mijn computer naar wat ik gemist heb op www.msn.com. En daar las ik een artikel met de titel "Hij dwong me tot een abortus". Toen ik dit las was ik benieuwd hoe je iemand tot een abortus kunt dwingen in Nederland. Dat dit in een ander land met een andere cultuur wel mogelijk is zal ik niet ontkennen maar in Nederland?

Ik las: "Een half jaar geleden werd ik ziek, juist op het moment dat ik me zó gelukkig voelde. Ik had net een nieuwe vriend die heel lief voor me was en ik dacht dat ik alles had wat mijn hartje begeerde. Tot ik mij plotseling weer wat beter ging voelen. Raar, want ik was nog niet met mijn medicatie gestart. Wat bleek? Ik was 5 weken zwanger! Maar waar mijn vriend altijd had beweerd dat we samen de hele wereld aankonden, stelde hij zich nu hard op; of ik haalde het weg of ik stond er alleen voor. 'Ik wil dit niet', herhaalde hij. Hij begon te huilen en kreeg zelfs paniekaanvallen. Ik had medelijden met hem. Diep van binnen wist ik dat ik het kindje wilde houden, maar ik besloot voor hem te kiezen. 'Ik haal het weg', beloofde ik. Ik deed het voor hem."

En terwijl ik het las begon die titel mij meer en meer te irriteren. Zij heeft niet alleen voor hem gekozen maar ook voor zichzelf en dat is een keuze die zij gemaakt heeft. Zij koos voor die abortus omdat ze liever hem wilde dan het kind. En ik kan dat best begrijpen hoor.

Ik las verder: "Nu, een maand verder, heeft hij me laten vallen. Natuurlijk, zo hoeft hij niks uit te leggen. Het ergste vind ik nog dat hij mijn zwangerschap ontkent. Hij zet mij weg als een leugenaar. Ondertussen probeer ik het te verwerken. Inmiddels heb ik het wel met mijn omgeving gedeeld. Want opkroppen deed me alleen maar meer pijn. Gelukkig krijg ik veel steun. "

Ik snap best dat dit pijnlijk voor haar is maar om nou dan te gaan beweren dat ze gedwongen is tot een abortus gaan mij persoonlijk veel en veel te ver. Blijkbaar was deze zwangerschap niet gepland, kan gebeuren. Je hebt net een nieuwe relatie en je wordt zwanger, ook dat kan. Je zou wel dat kindje willen maar je partner waar je nog niet zo lang een relatie mee hebt wil dat niet, ook dat kan. Dan heb je op dat moment een keuze. Je kiest voor het kind of je kiest voor de partner. In beide gevallen kies je dan toch zelf. Zij koos voor een leven met hem en dat betekende een leven zonder kind. Haar keuze ........... Ik vind het echt sneu voor haar dat hij alsnog de relatie verbroken heeft maar dan nog kan ze dit niet op zijn bordje leggen. Vind ik dan.

Wil je het hele artikel lezen klik dan op HIER. Vind jij wel dat zij gedwongen is tot een abortus of vind jij net als ik dat zij gewoon een eigen keuze heeft gemaakt waar zij achteraf spijt van heeft gekregen?

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