I really try to get over it but I notice that I'm getting more and more annoyed about it and I really need to get rid of it. Since October, I care for a child who could no longer live at home. How this worked can be read below:

In December, the oversight statement was pronounced and I wrote a little about that too:

In the last sentence, I already mentioned a bit what I'm worried about: “Because if the parents no longer feel legally and financially responsible, the e.e.a. will have to be arranged very quickly.” I find a number of things very strange. One of the things that are pretty weird is that you place someone and it's done in a way. Of course, first attention is paid to the child and parents (voluntary placement with a little pressure) but you put someone in a family that is not a foster family. It's called network shelter. Now there's nothing wrong with me and my family, but still. In the course of time, you will be vetted that then again. It examines whether you are a safe family and looks at whether you are not listed in the legal field with regard to criminal offences. When that's done, it's the judge's turn. Based on the studies, a conversation follows with the child and the parent (s) and then a decision follows. In our case, that became an oversight and that he would stay with me. But if I'm perfectly honest, I've never been asked if that's okay. Now I will never put it/a child on the street and I think it is important that he gets a chance and if he wants it with me then that's fine but afterwards I realized that nobody has ever asked if I wanted to or maybe it's better to say it is possible. I was initially asked to take the child into the house because it would escalate at home and of course I did not want that for him so of course he could stay with me for so long. I was so confiscated myself to arrange things for him and to establish contacts to arrange things with regard to school, internship, work and guidance that I didn't think about it very long. I indicated it but I was actually always sent with a lump in the reeds trusting that it would be okay and would be arranged. And I got myself sent, too, and that's really bothering me.

What is bothering me? The financial part bothers me. I'll just name it straight. When I first asked how it would go financially I was told “it is a voluntary placement and the parents are responsible but they are “pissed” so I don't think you have to expect anything”. That the parents did not like that he wanted to come live with me that surprised me nothing and that they would not want to pay also and because I was as ignorant as the plague I didn't know to react at that moment either. “It would be solved” and I was counting on that, I trusted. Christmas was coming and there was no pronunciation yet and I wanted a present under the tree and so I turned every dime around to get it settled financially. There also had to be a mattress and a bed and a closet and clothes and and and... so I arranged it all and trusted that it would be arranged.

After the ruling and when the realization became clear that the court had placed the child with me, more questions came. How is it going to continue and how on earth am I going to arrange it financially? As I described, I immediately rang the bell in mid-December but that didn't really make any sense. Once again spoke to the lady of the municipality about the financial part and then the answer was: “now that it goes to the Youth Care Office, we can no longer do anything from the municipality”. WHAT????? In the meantime, I had spent my time in Google and discovered that the municipality can and should make a financial contribution. After all, they were responsible. For a week there has been a family guardian who has signed me to foster care or: “These plans an intake, where we will go to the table, so that hopefully there will be support for you in the short term." Hopefully?????????