Under mistrust lies fear.
A quote from an article by the NRC is an important part of this blog.
this link you can go there, but I will also quote a piece from it, because you can't read their articles for free. However, I think it is important that it is under the I will also add some other blogs that deal with the same theme.
It is a topic that is close to my heart and I have created my own blogger for that, in the form of columns (mostly)


Quote: Jo-Ann, a tender woman of 33 with Rotterdam tongue trap, long straight hair and tattooed arms, is a good mother who lives for her children. All the care workers agree on that. Yet youth care is increasingly interfering with her life. The reason: she is regularly beaten up by her ex. In front of your children is child abuse. She should avoid that, a member of the hotline Safe Home told her.
If it happens for the sixth time on August 3, 2018, she will be told to accept help. She experiences that as A threat: if you do not do what we say, we will take your children away.